What happened to Black Love?

I remember when I was little, everybody in my immediate family had those velvet pictures of Black people kissing hanging in the living rooms. When velvet went out of style, so did those pictures but I have noticed that Black Love is also out of style. Nowadays Black women and men ain't got nothing nice to say about each other. Today I am declaring a war on the disintegration of the Black couple. The problem is most of the young people today do not have strong relationship models. As a child, I remember celebrating my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary. Today folks are happy if they make it past the 5 yr mark. Can you think of anyone in your family that has been married for over 20 years? If you do, go to that person and ask how they did it. Make an effort to learn what it takes to maintain a relationship instead of running at the first sign of difficulty. I know that women have evolved and are more independent than those of the past, but that doesn't mean that you can't learn from those women.
I can hear y'all now.
"They still together 'cause she put up with stuff that I just will not tolerate."
"They stuff she did is ancient history, I am not fitna be some little housewife."
Again, stop talking and start listening. I never said be just like those women, but learn how they maintained their relationships. Take that information and make it work for you.
I know it seems that I am only focusing on women and I am not ganging up on you guys, but it is the Black GIRL's guide.
What inspired this topic? Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown. I was watching their new show "Being Bobby Brown" and as crazy as they looked, the bottom line was that they love each other. And it was very evident in the episodes I saw. Yes, there was plenty of drama with the jail time and court cases, but she stood by him. The thing that was so obvious to me was that they genuinely enjoyed each others company. They have a good time together and love the kids. So from this day forward, I will not say bad things about Bobby and Whitney. What I learned is that they have something that plenty of us don't, TRUE LOVE. Crazy as it is.

Baby Mama Drama (think Dave Hollister's song)

In these days and times, it hard and almost impossible to date somebody without a child from a previous marriage or relationship. I know that I have done it and at times it was difficult. Between you and the kid/s, you will always take a backseat IF he is trying to be in the child/ren's life. But sometimes their is a 3rd party that makes the relationship hard, the Baby Mama. Now I am not trying to generalize all baby mama's, but 6 out 10 cause more drama than a lil bit. And if you are the new girl, she will make sure you are as uncomfortable in the relationship as possible. She will try many different methods. 1) Try to get more child support to break the man's pockets 2) Press charges that he assaulted her in some manner when there were no witnesses 3) Not allow him to see the child and when he is able to see the child NO OTHER WOMEN can be around the child
Now that makes thing hard if this dude is trying to establish a relationship with you or any other woman. No one wants drama, sometimes we are thrust in the middle of it and are caught off guard. Lots of us avoid Baby Mama Drama by simply trying not to date men with children. But if you go this route, you slice your dating pool almost in half. So what to do? Well if a young man says he has child/ren, check the relationship he has with the Baby Mama. Are they cordial to one another or is their a certain hostility when her name is mentioned? Does she know about you (if your relationship is serious)? He is very hush hush about his interaction with her? (Watch this one BM might still be his cut buddy) But you can decide for yourself how much drama you will endure just based on simple observations. So ladies, instead of talking to get to know this brother with kids, listen to him VERY CLOSELY .

Advice for those who can't get it right

I think I am good at advice giving
I have a degree in counseling
And folx are constantly talking to me about their relationship issues
So I decided to answer any questions anyone may have
Ask away Bitches!!!!!